I dealt with anger in a relationship that got physical. I began slamming doors to try to define a barrier. More than once I sat in front of one trying to protect myself, sitting there hoping he would go away, cool off, leave me alone.
“He was such nice guy”—to everyone else—so it took me a long time to decide I needed to leave the relationship. And now I have to be careful about what I say because court orders stop women from sharing their stories. Over and over, in the court system, I heard, “He just does things differently.”
Many people want to believe Pistorius. That it was a mistake.
Everyone is wondering, “How could he shoot such a beautiful woman?” I see comments about how “nice” he was to everyone. I thought about the possibility that perhaps he was just trying to scare her or threaten her. That maybe his real “mistake” was that he didn’t “mean” to kill her. I was threatened so many times in so many ways I thought maybe that needed consideration.
But there are much bigger problems with Pistorius’ story. It simply does not make sense.
One good way to find answers to some of them would be to recreate the scene.
Reports say Pistorius claims that the room was “pitch dark.” Someone needs to set up the same lighting and find out.
In a caption under 2) Bathroom noise in an article by the BBC, Pistorius says he was “Too scared to turn on the light, he pulled a 9mm pistol from under his bed and went to the bathroom, shouting to Ms. Steenkamp to call the police.”
Someone needs to set this up. Put a person in the bed and turn the lights off. Then they should get on their knees and come around to the side of the bed where the gun was located.
That person would be face to face with the person in the bed. What “doesn’t happen now” doesn’t make sense.
Pistorius is planning to go to the bathroom because he thinks there’s an intruder in there.
Why doesn’t normal human self-preservation kick in? Why would anyone who is going to be moving more slowly than the average person make their way down a hallway when an intruder could step out of the bathroom at any minute and shoot?
Why doesn’t he do what any normal person would do to at least try to save Reeva? He’s right there. Why wouldn’t he reach out to wake her up and say, “Get the hell out of here. There’s an intruder in the bathroom. Call the police.” He knows she could run. Perhaps she could get help for him if he was injured.
Instead, he just heads down that hallway. And then he turns the corner. Who the hell in their right mind does that? Pistorius could have no way of knowing the location of the “intruder.” The “intruder” could have been standing in the area by the sink and have a direct shot at Pistorius. If the “intruder” was in the toilet area, he could have opened that door and shot at Pistorius at any time as well. There is simply no rationale for anyone to go toward that bathroom or into that bathroom if he suspected there was an “intruder” in there. The only logical decision anyone would make would be to get the hell out of the house or at least give Reeva a chance.
If he was that close to the bed, reaching under it to get a gun, he had to know that she was not there. Anyone who gets out of bed turns down the covers. Could he have even found the gun if he didn’t have enough light to see some of what he was doing?
Wouldn’t she have responded from the bathroom?
You could also imagine sitting on the toilet or cowering behind a toilet and imagine that a shot has been fired. Would Reeva simply stay quiet if she was in there? Wouldn’t she would be screaming for him to stop? Surely any impact to her body would have caused her to scream. I am guessing that a woman screaming when she’s shot sounds quite distinct.
And would Pistorius naturally assume that an intruder would be a woman? Wouldn’t a scream from a woman be enough for him to think, “Hey, that’s a woman. Maybe I need to stop shooting and make sure I know it isn’t Reeva who would normally be in the bathroom?” Wouldn’t you call out and say something? But does a person even scream if they are initially shot in the head? It’s awful to even think about it.
There were two phones in the bedroom and two phones in the bathroom. Not one of them was used to call for help. If you think you’ve made a mistake, wouldn’t you immediately call someone who could possibly save her while you worked to break down the door?
But why was the door locked? Who gets up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom and locks the door? No one. There’s simply no reason other than trying to protect yourself.
And why would he move her body? To cover up the fact she was cowering? It makes no sense for a man who is disabled to attempt to do what he did, to take her “down the stairs.” He tried to make it look like he was doing something heroic. Then he made the claim that she “died in his arms.” Again, for dramatic effect. Making a call, getting professional help as quickly as possible, is what any normal person would do when someone they love is injured.
He also had no license for the .38-caliber weapon so his possession of the ammunition is illegal. And now the “ammunition belonged to his father.”
From what I can see, Pistorius didn’t think through all of the details to make his story believable. I hope the judges do. Men like Pistorius do not have the right to “live their lives,” when women, who are continual victims of this kind of abuse, have theirs taken.